I think I am usually quicker on the draw to write up Labor and Delivery stories here on the blog but its been a bit of a whirlwind since this one was so unexpected! USUALLY I have SOME control over when I have my little ladies, this time it was a true surprise. Like my friend Ann said "Well, Mickie, this is how EVERYONE ELSE has babies... at the most random time!"
This is the long story... scroll to the bottom for the 4 sentence version.
It all started on Thursday. I had a Dr. appointment that morning and he stripped my membranes, to spare the details i'll just say it doesn't feel very good but it gets the party started. Really it was in preparation for my induction date of the 10th. My mom had bought a plane ticket for the morning of the 9th, to come help for the week after I had her. I was actually due on the 17th, but I never have made it to my due date thank goodness. I told Matt it's because Heavenly Father knows just how miserable and painful and terrible pregnancy is for me so he doesn't ever make me take more than I can handle, which is never seeing my due date.
The whole day after the appointment I got a few things done but really wasn't feeling great. I had a Primary Presidency meeting that night (i moved it to my house) and tied up the rest of the loose ends for our upcoming Primary Program on the 28th of September. I was in charge of planning and organizing the whole affair, which is quite a big undertaking for someone that is 9 months pregnant. It wasn't a cake walk but I think I left the rest of the Presidency in a good place and I am excited to just come to church that Sunday and watch it.
Thursday night I kept having contractions. I always have a TON of contractions but I've never kept track of them before because they are so sporadic. All I know is I would fall asleep and wake up 15 minutes later in pain. Fall asleep, wake up... it was a rough night. At about 4:30 am I thought that I should get up and actually pack a hospital bag just in case I really was in labor, but I fell asleep sometime after that thought and woke up when Matt left for work about 2 hours later. I told him to keep his phone on and close while working just in case. He kissed me and left for work.


Friday was Ty's first "Practice" day at school. It's called Smart Start where he goes all day 9:05-3:20 (SO LONG for a little kinder like Ty!) but it's with only half of the students in his class and it's an introductory day. Since we have the boundary exception, we will be dropping him up and picking him up each day (insert sad face for Ty, he is really looking forward to riding the bus to school someday). I left pretty early, unsure of really where to go, the front or back of the school or how crazy it would be will a ton of parents dropping their children off. I circled around and realized it would be pretty much like an airport, if I wanted to get out I needed to park.
I found an unofficial spot by noticing other moms with kids backing in. I took a spot and left the girls in the car with the engine running so I could quickly walk Ty over to his classroom. Well Mrs. Wahlstrom hadn't opened the door yet and it would be 5 more minutes before she did. I didn't feel comfortable leaving the girls THAT long so I hurried (key word here, hurried is more painful business when so far along) back to the car, grabbed the girls and came back to Ty's classroom while beginning to be swarmed by other kids headed to their classes. We waited a few more minutes and when it came time for Ty to go in, he gave his teacher a Hi-Five and walked right in. No fears, no tears just excitement. It was a little anti-climactic I guess.
I got home and I thought I would have a harder time with him in Kindergarten but I was preoccupied with labor pains, maybe that was a good thing. Maylee and Emma were amiss that morning with out their Brother to be peacemaker, game maker, lunch maker, potty helper and general leader to them. Turns out, Emma and Maylee dont get along with each other as well with out Ty, or maybe I was just in a bad mood (again loads of unregistered pain computing in my brain and everyone else just being irritating) but I felt like all morning I was breaking up fights and begging them to just get along. I started to do laundry and got about 3 loads washed. I folded up a couple things to go in a potential hospital bag, including my Hospital gown. Matt came home for lunch and actually took a nap instead of working out. I thought that sounded like a good idea, so I got the girls lunch and put away all the kids clothes in their closets. I put Emma down for a nap and when Matt woke up to eat and head back in to work I lied down on the couch. Maylee (always down for a cuddle) snuggled in right next to me and I dozed. I turned on some Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and got a little sleep/rest. Before I knew it, it was time to pick up Ty. The girls and I parked in the same spot. Ty was NOT happy to see me, since he wanted to ride the bus. He told me he wanted to go on a field trip that day at school and was disappointed that they didn't so he had a grouch face. The girls were happy to see him though. We got home and planned on going Back to School shopping for Ty. He needed new tennis shoes, after a summer of flip flops and crocs his feet had grown too big for his vans. Also, a new backpack since his Pre-School one was too small to hold his lunch AND his Harmony Huskies take home folder and lastly a new Back to School outfit.
Matt got home, did his workout and we were talking about dinner when Ty said "I think we need to go to Red Robin for dinner, I love Red Robin" (Are our kids SPOILED or what! When Matt and I were children, we didn't go out to eat very often and when we did, we DEFINITELY didn't dictate the restaurant) However, both Matt and I thought it wasn't a bad idea. By now I was feeling really really junky and having tons of contractions but again I didn't keep track of them just clinched my teeth and tried to breathe. We got to Red Robin to eat before shopping. We waited a few minutes and were seated. We ordered our food I drank a few sips of water and to my surprise, I started crying. I didn't know if it was pain, maybe being overwhelmed or just being overly emotional. Matt asked what he could do, since I think he was as caught off guard that I was crying as well. I grabbed his phone, left mine and said "I think I need to go outside and get some fresh air. I think I am labor." He said okay, and right when I stood up the food got there. The kids started eating and Matt asked if I wanted them to pack mine up. I was feeling so sick I didn't think it would work out, so I told him to have Emma eat my dinner. I got outside to the parking lot and just walked around a little and started timing my contractions. Sure enough they were coming on every 3 minutes for about a minute each. After about 10 minutes I text Matt and said, "I am in labor, we should go to the hospital" his response? "I have a tee time tomorrow" my response "Jerk :)". (There is our marriage in a nutshell. haha always a joke...) So he hurried the children we got in the car and headed home to pick up stuff for the hospital. I went in and grabbed our phones, the iPad and the clothes I folded and my hospital gown and a few other things. I wasn't sure they would admit me, but it was worth a try.
The whole time driving there Matt kept saying "How are you doing, are you still in labor? Do you still want to go in?" I was just quiet. I wasn't sure, it was all uncertain and I would HATE to go to the hospital and have them say, "You're close, but you aren't quite there yet, come back when _________ happens." So we got there, Matt dropped me off at the front and I went to Labor and Delivery. I walked in and said "So I think I am in labor." The nurse said, "Oh, okay, here is some paperwork." Bleck, paperwork. So i filled it out and got in a room. A nurse came in (Dawn) and said he would hook me up to see about contractions, check my dilation and my effacement. She got everything all done before Matt and the kids made it upstairs. I didn't want to change into a hospital gown until they officially admitted me. So I was hooked up with just my shirt pulled up. I was dilated to a 4, when the morning before I was a 2. So there was progress, but they wanted to make sure it was enough for active labor. She left for 15 minutes. I counted only 3 good contractions so I was worried they were going to tell me to go home.
She came back and said "Well, you've had a TON of contractions, pretty strong ones too. They're coming every 2 minutes pretty consistently." I was surprised, but shouldn't have been since I really cant tell when I am in labor or not... She checked me again and said she wanted to me to go for a walk for about an hour though before she officially admitted me. This is when confusion began. Will I be admitted? If so, who will watch the kids? My mom isn't coming until Tuesday! I wasn't ready! Do we wait with the kids here until then, THEN find someone to watch them? Or should we just get someone now so they don't have to sit in the hospital for an hour?
So, after an hour or so and phone calls to my mom and a friend we decided to just have Ann come and get the kids, come stay with them until either I am admitted or not. She agreed to stay the night with the kids if she needed to do that as well. (Three cheers for Ann!) So Matt went down with the kids, got them all set with Ann and came back up. In that time the nurse came back to check me. She said I was probably still a 4, MAYBE a 5... but that the babies head had moved down and she felt comfortable admitting me even though I didn't dilate as much as she'd hoped. It was now probably 9:15 pm. I got changed into the hospital gown at that point and she went to go get the IV stuff. I HATE the IV part but she did a great job unlike with Emma where the girl was LEARNING on me as her FIRST PATIENT. She did all of this while Matt was gone, which was difficult for me since I like to hold his hand and try to keep my mind off of that part. But I made it through and was all set by the time he made it back up.
By now I was really feeling the contractions and wondering if going natural again was a good idea or if I should get an epidural. The nurse told me as soon as my blood work came back I could get an epidural. After about 30 minutes I decided, what the heck, I don't need this in my life. I am just going to get an epidural. So in came the doc and I got the epidural. Matt was there for that to hold my hand, which isn't as bad as the IV in my opinion. Afterwards it was about 10:30. Dr. Calvert broke my water and said he would be back in about 2 hours to check me but to most likely deliver a baby. I was wondering about that since I didn't have any pitocen, It would be the first L&D that I went into labor by myself and stayed in labor consistently, OH and the first baby I wasn't Strep B Positive, so none of that yucky penicillin either! I asked Dr. Calvert what he was going to do while he waited, he said "Take a nap of course!"
Matt and I watched a few Jimmy Fallon youtube videos while I text a few people. I spoke to my mom and she got it worked out to fly in Sunday afternoon. After about 20 more minutes the nurse walked in, she checked me and said she thought I was ready. I was shocked... ready? really? I thought I would have at least felt like it was time. So Dr. Calvert came back in at about 12:30, I asked him how his nap was, he said "Great actually!" He got all ready and decided to wait just a few more contractions before I pushed. He put an exercise ball shaped like a peanut between my knees to open things up just a little more and after about 2 minutes I was ready. We got all set, I didn't feel a thing but i could move my legs just fine. He told me when to push, it took about 2 maybe 3 pushes and Ta-Da baby Grace was on my tummy while Dr. Calvert cut her umbilical cord. He teased Matt and told him to cut the cord, then asked if I wanted to. That isn't our thing, so he said, "okay, okay i'll do it..." He cut it and stitched me up a few stitches. I got a good hour of skin to skin with the little lady while Matt chatted with Dr. Calvert for a bit and started a group text to the family.
Grace has loads of dark brown near black hair. It's shocking considering all our kids are so blonde! We'll see if it stays dark or turns blonde like her siblings.
She sucks her thumb! It's so cute/
Right after I was done, they gave me a little bit of pitocen through my IV and turned off the epidural. I realized I was STARVING (hello, I didn't eat dinner) so the nurse got me a little food. The nurse gave Grace a bath and did all her other shots and things they typically do right after the baby is born. Then it was time for Grace to eat. Matt got all ready and asked how much he should try and feed her, usually it takes a good 45 minutes to feed a newborn burp and change them. The nurse said about 5ml. Matt put the bottle in Grace's mouth and about 1 minute later he pulled the bottle out of her mouth to see how much she drank. 15 ml! WHOOPS! Guess she didn't eat dinner either! Haha So needless to say, the girl can put it away. She eats faster and more than ANY of her siblings. She is going to be a Chunky Monkey in no time.

So they moved us to the recovery floor and I realized the perks of birthing 4 children is the Labor and Delivery is a piece of cake. The healing, swelling, bruising and bleeding is fairly minimal. Not too bad... what does hurt is the INSIDES. Boy oh boy, it felt like I was still in labor! After about 24 hours of what felt like really strong contractions every 30 minutes or so I was waving the white flag. They were only giving me Ibuprofen to help with inflammation and pain. The hospital OB was making her rounds and she came to check on me Saturday evening. She was shocked I hadn't all ready asked for anything stronger and pretty much had a prescription ready for me. OH that made a world of difference. I didn't take anything stronger with Emma and was fairly miserable for about a week afterwards. This time on a little stronger pain killer I am able to move better and do a lot better. Hopefully in a day or two I can be done with it and be back to the occasional Ibuprofen.

The hospital stay was a little tricky, since my Mom wasn't here quite yet to help it totally threw Ty for a loop. There has always been a standard operating procedure Grandma comes to take care of the kids while Mom and Dad stay at the hospital. Well Ann doing it this time was upsetting to him. He woke up Saturday morning pretty upset that Grandma wasn't there. Ann was amazing and helped him through his tough time. She took them to the store and had each kid pick out a balloon and toy for their new sister (two princess balloons and a blue star, can you guess who picked what?) She brought them to the hospital at Noon. The kids came running down the hallway. Grace had been an ANGEL her first night. A little fussing but really not much. Matt took that night shift and slept with her on the make shift bed that is in the recovery room for fathers. I crashed but had to wake every hour or so to get up and use the bathroom/writhe in pain. Anyway, she had some good peaceful sleep then brother and sisters came... Matt was holding Grace in the chair next to me. Emma ran in and said, BABY!!! EYES!!! then poke, right in the eye. Haha. Poor girl. They love her. She gets a LOT of attention.


Matt has been Dad/Husband of the year through all this. With it happening so quickly with out a plan he took care of everything while he dealt with an emotional wife and children. He went to the store in the early morning and bought a TON of fruit for me and some cookies. He bought muffins and chips. When the kids came at noon he had all their lunches ready to go and had them all sit down and eat then hold the baby. He took them home at about 1:30 and put Emma down for a nap. He did the yard work he wanted to do took a shower changed his clothes and left the kids with another friend of ours, Angela, so he could come back and be with me and Gracie at the hospital. Ty had another melt down, he wanted GRANDMA, not to go to play at the Thomas's house. He worked through it and ended up being okay that night. Matt and I watched football games all day and purposely ignored the BYU game so Matt could watch it recorded on our DVR that night and I would use my parents sling box and watch it on my iPad. He stayed until about 8:30 and went to pick up the kids and he left me for the night. Of course I cried and was not excited to be by myself with Grace. Our children have a history of having a rough first 24 hours. Everything went just fine through the night. I watched the football game and got sleep in between feedings. Grace had her next weigh (6lbs 11oz.) and they did her 24 hours tests which she passed. Grace was great with everything and never tried to die, which always makes a mom happy.

Originally they said we wouldn't be released from the hospital until about 2 pm because that is how long it takes for the OB and Peds to make their rounds. We were frustrated with that because my mom was flying in at 2 and we needed to be able to pick her up from the airport. My nurse, Jessica was in the room to hear Matt and I talking about this (again I was quite emotional) and she made sure to tell the next nurse to have us be first on the OB and Peds list to get us out of there so we wouldn't have to find anyone else to watch our kids and we could just go home.

Well I ended up sleeping from 2:30 am to about 8:30 am. I cant believe Grace let me sleep that long! The nurse, Dani finally woke me up because the OB was ready to see me. I was her first patient that morning. I was fine to be released. So we were just waiting for the Ped to give the okay and we could leave. He came by at 9:30 am again, I was his first patient. I changed, packed up the room and was ready to go by 10. Matt and the kids were there by 11 and we were out the door. Big high fives to the nurses for getting us out of there so soon.



We got home I took a shower and took naps and Matt went and picked up my mom. Since then, it's been great! Grace has a fussy time from about 9 pm to 3 am... so that has been rough. Matt and I did every other night, but now he is going back to work tomorrow. He got up this morning at about 10:30 and said to me with puffy, baggy bloodshot eyes, "Mick, I don't know how you are going to do this." Yeah pretty sure I am going to be a Zombie for the next 6-8 weeks or so. But it's easier to get through it knowing that this is my last one. I am enjoying it a little more, having a newborn. I think Matt is taking time to enjoy it a little more too. I wish he didn't have to work and could help me all day everyday, he's so amazing. My mom has been SO GREAT with the other three children as well. Next week will be rough I think, adjusting to me doing it on my own. Wish me luck and say a prayer for me, i'll need it!



Short version: Friday I didn't feel well, I went to the hospital at 7:30 pm. By 10:30 or so I had an epidural, by 12:41 am Sept 6th Baby Grace arrived. Matt was amazing, the kids love her and my Mom is here helping until Saturday. We're all doing great!
Grace Mignon Spence
Born September 6th
12:41 am
6 lbs. 15 oz.
19" long